A good example of someone who does not stand on his own feet in his own shoes is the following story.
It concerns a man who comes from the periphery of the Netherlands from a family who was rather poor. In this Protestant family in which he grew up, he noted that this is not a life for fun. Thus, he decided to do it differently for himself.
But that was difficult considering the fact that he had not had too much education. He did learned the outward rules of conduct of his faith like public showing you do (supposedly) good for others and, above all, always walk around with the mask of laughter.
Internally he remained a little child who was a much wronged person when he didn’t got what he desired.
He worked in a simple job and lived very primitive in order to save money. He found a woman to share his life with who started to act likewise.
Because this life reminded him to his poor childhood he longed for the day to earn lots of money in an easy way. He taught himself to teach others on coaching level. He did so by asking an experienced trainer to give teachings to him and a group of students. Then he would slowly take over the baton. He would customize the instructional content. Some of his first students he could turn into trainers so he could mainly stick to the role of Director.
It thus happened that others worked for him for a low salary and he had an easy life.
After several year as Director of this company he could afford to buy an expensive house in an expensive area and to make it even tax-deductible.
However, he hardly understood his own training as he could understand only cognitive and could not internalize it. In his head he was looking for his own method what resulted in chaos thinking. Though he gave his teachers often preposterous commands coming from this chaos thinking.
Students and the employees who met him slowly discovered that he himself was a problem. Strange that such a man desired to teach others something. Because of his conduct there were fewer students in his training courses and he was struggling to keep his head up.
Looking at him on energy level you see that he sits in a wheelchair and moves forward by the effort of his teachers and students. He hardly has a grounding and if present it is through others. This person creates lot of karma and still has many lives to life before he reaches the level of some of his students.
He is no exception in its kind.
So always look for a teacher who is mentally and physically well, otherwise it will turn out for the worse.
